i get on my own nerves too, don’tchu worry

19 01 2011

I’m an only child.

Well, sorta.

I do have a baby half-brother. He’s a full 15 years behind me, so in essence, we’re BOTH only children. I was out of the house before he was out of diapers, plus mother was a completely different person by then, with different circumstances, etc, as you might guess.

So now that she’s gone, I’ve become the matriarch, and therefore also the mother figure. Which is fine. Really. He’s really one of the sweetest souls I know. He’s got his own problems and gets in his own way, but then again don’t we all?

Point being, I confess: sometimes it’s hard to not be annoyed. And DAMN, I know it shows, no matter how hard I try for it not to.

It’s my problem, not his. I didn’t have the prep time of having the baby/toddler/kid/tween/teen progression beforehand, I just skipped straight from baby to Young Adult. And my official “I’m Practicing Kindness” mindset this year mandates that I not only of course show kindness and patience to him as his inner-self grows to match his size 13 shoes, but also that I show kindness and patience to myself as I adjust too.

Just the same, it makes me realize that what I found mildly irritating, is likely because on some level I cringe that I probably used to do whatever that is too (and please GAWD, hopefully I have grown out of it otherwise I wouldn’t be recognizing it in him when it goes awry.). All minor things, none of which are a crime of course, but still, *sigh*.

And yeah, even still: every now and then, just like watching him, I also watch myself. I see my own lips flapping, and I am powerless to stop my own annoying self. I’m choosing to find it “mildly, charmingly, annoying”. (I’m trying really hard here, work with me…)

Pesky “witness”.

Phone conversations rather than face-to-face might have something to do with it, but fortunately so far, I think I’ve been pretty good with him not noticing the occasional eyeroll.

The Witness agrees.

(whew)

And that is all for tonight.

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4 responses

20 01 2011
delightfuleccentric

I’ve always heard that the things that annoy us the most are the things that we do ourselves. Because of that, I often stop and check inwards when I’m annoyed at something/someone. Sometimes I see it, sometimes I don’t. (Example – it annoys me when people are constantly late – I myself am almost never late – so obviously, that one doesn’t apply.)

20 01 2011
geauxgirl

Ditto. Under a similar inspection, so far I’d venture to say 90% of the things are unique to him– I’ve got my own issues, and plenty of ’em, they’re just different ones than these. 🙂

21 01 2011
izziedarling

It’s damn hard to be the matriarch (sp) no matter how adorable or what age the person you “watch” is. He’s lucky, if you ask me.

25 01 2011
geauxgirl

Thanks, friend. If we’re really paying attention, we’re all *lucky*.

*hugs*

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